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Very interesting book A New York liberal, lesbian, feminist takes on the role of a man to see what men are all about As Ned, she joins a bowling team, works selling merchandise in a high pressure sales job, visits strip clubs, goes on dates, stays at a monestary for a while, and goes to meetings of a mens movement Her insights into gender are interesting, and not something that I think too much about, to be honest She thought that being a white male would open up all kinds of doors she felt Very interesting book A New York liberal, lesbian, feminist takes on the role of a man to see what men are all about As Ned, she joins a bowling team, works selling merchandise in a high pressure sales job, visits strip clubs, goes on dates, stays at a monestary for a while, and goes to meetings of a mens movement Her insights into gender are interesting, and not something that I think too much about, to be honest She thought that being a white male would open up all kinds of doors she felt were closed to her as a woman, but found out that isn t so One of her conclusions, and I guess this could be good or bad news depending on who you are, is that the white male is just another stereotype now, not some all powerful exclusive club Reading other people s reviews on Goodreads I pretty much agree with what most other people have to say, at least the moderates among them However, I will say this it seems that the people that disliked the book and wrote reviews about it didn t throughly read the book In particular, they did not read the end of the first chapter where Norah has her disclaimer I conducted and recorded the results of an experiment is not to say that this book pretends to be a scientific or objective study N Reading other people s reviews on Goodreads I pretty much agree with what most other people have to say, at least the moderates among them However, I will say this it seems that the people that disliked the book and wrote reviews about it didn t throughly read the book In particular, they did not read the end of the first chapter where Norah has her disclaimer I conducted and recorded the results of an experiment is not to say that this book pretends to be a scientific or objective study Not even close What follows is just my view of things, myopic and certainly inapplicable to anything so grand as a pronouncement on gender in American society So, I recommend the book I found it funny and enjoyable reading But please keep in mind that you shouldn t try to glean too much from it I think the real purpose is to get the reader to think about gender issues And to possibly say something insightful about one s one experiences At this I think the author succeeded @DOWNLOAD E-PUB ⚼ Self-Made Man: One Woman's Journey Into Manhood and Back Again Í Having gone where no woman who wasn t an aspiring or actual transsexual has gone for any significant length of time, let alone eighteen months, Norah Vincent s surprising account is an enthralling reading experience and a revelatory piece of anecdotally based gender analysis that is sure to spark fierce and fascinating conversationA journalist s provocative, spellbinding account of her eighteen months spent undercover will transform the way we think about what it means to be a man Following in the tradition of John Howard Griffin Black Like Me and Barbara Ehrenreich Nickel and Dimed , Norah Vincent absorbed a cultural experience and reported back on what she observed incognito For than a year and a half she ventured into the world as Ned, with an ever present five o clock shadow, a crew cut, wire rim glasses, and her own sizeshoes a perfect disguise that enabled her to observe the world of men as an insider The result is a sympathetic, shrewd, and thrilling tour de force of immersion journalism that s destined to challenge preconceptions and attract enormous attention With her buddies on the bowling league she enjoyed the rough and rewarding embrace of male camaraderie undetectable to an outsider A stint in a high octane sales job taught her the gut wrenching pressures endured by men who would do anything to succeed She frequented sex clubs, dated women hungry for love but bitter about men, and infiltrated all male communities as hermetically sealed as a men s therapy group, and even a monastery Narrated in her utterly captivating prose style and with exquisite insight, humor, empathy, nuance, and at great personal cost, Norah uses her intimate firsthand experience to explore the many remarkable mysteries of gender identity as well as who men are apart from and in relation to women Far from becoming bitter or outraged, Vincent ended her journey astounded and exhausted by the rigid codes and rituals of masculinity Having gone where no woman who wasn t an aspiring or actual transsexual has gone for any significant length of time, let alone eighteen months, Norah Vincent s surprising account is an enthralling reading experience and a revelatory piece of anecdotally based gender analysis that is sure to spark fierce and fascinating conversation This is a proper three star book It is enjoyable but lacks the distinction or pleasure factor that would elevate its rating higher The most interesting part was her interaction with the monks The author cross dresses etc to be a man among men not for the thrill of passing as it were She doesn t either entirely succeed or convince The book seems to be a collection of interesting articles rather than an exploration of an alternate self, in other words, it lacks depth.Finished 2007 Imagine you re able to pass as the oppossite sex At work, in a club, when you re roaming the streets That would be intriguing, exciting, yet odd and scary at the same time What would you do What would you like to find out Where would you start Norah Vincent made it happen, with the idea of studying men among their own, their interaction with females and both sexes place in society What I personally expected sociological insights, remarkable and worrisome stories, eye openers and a g Imagine you re able to pass as the oppossite sex At work, in a club, when you re roaming the streets That would be intriguing, exciting, yet odd and scary at the same time What would you do What would you like to find out Where would you start Norah Vincent made it happen, with the idea of studying men among their own, their interaction with females and both sexes place in society What I personally expected sociological insights, remarkable and worrisome stories, eye openers and a good dash of amusement Firstly, I applaud Vincent for having the guts to live in disguise forthan a year I understand why that must have been an emotional rollercoaster That being said, I m not that enthusiastic about her approach She seems to have started her project with some sturdy assumptions, she just loved to see confirmed As her character Ned, she seems to have a thing for the troubled among us he fishes in all the murky waters When you visit a trashy strip club, wouldn t it make quite the story if you stumbled upon a dandy Her descriptions of these raunchy places are unsettling, yes But these are not the sort of revelations I had put Vincent through the entire process of becoming a man for She finds that most men really are twisted and behave disturbingly The women She dates ones that bitterly refer to men as meat with a pulse and feel the urge to hostily discuss abortion on a first date, yes Don t get me wrong, I can sense where these women are coming from, I just can t relate As a girl, would you go through the entire process of hooking up with a potential love interest over the Internet, only to verbally slaughter him over a coffee I didn t think so either Now what are the chances of Ned meeting these women over and over again Oh yes, do we live in a fucked up world in which Mars and Venus are equally frustrated But this conclusion is altogether too simplistic A woman in disguise, living in a mens worldthese ingredients should at least guarantee a little humor and refreshing insights Hell, in Hollywood, they d base six seasons of a sitcom on this I personally think Vincent s experiment didn t have to leave such a bitter taste in my mouth, or hers While it s clear that Vincent likely carries lifetime subscriptions to Bust and Ms and carries a certain generational badge in her feminism, I find the book useful for its willingness to cross what I ve always considered the last frontier of feminism getting past the us v them and moving, however slowly, towards amutually understandable social world Her insights into the infinitesimally small ways in which we cue gender in social settings are fascinating reading, and the gradual openi While it s clear that Vincent likely carries lifetime subscriptions to Bust and Ms and carries a certain generational badge in her feminism, I find the book useful for its willingness to cross what I ve always considered the last frontier of feminism getting past the us v them and moving, however slowly, towards amutually understandable social world Her insights into the infinitesimally small ways in which we cue gender in social settings are fascinating reading, and the gradual opening of her worldview showsthan anything the true impact of her experience Well worth a read for anyone who wants to see how feminism is evolving, and for women just plain curious about how the other half lives I love this book I have read it over twice now, and I know I will re read it often The situation is that the author begins a quest to learnabout what it is like to be a person of the opposite sex Don t we all wonder about this at least occasionally Don t men and women often shake their heads in total bewilderment of the curious, unfathomable even bizarre and seemingly irrational behaviors, thoughts and feelings of whatever sex you are not Wouldn t you like to understand or at lea I love this book I have read it over twice now, and I know I will re read it often The situation is that the author begins a quest to learnabout what it is like to be a person of the opposite sex Don t we all wonder about this at least occasionally Don t men and women often shake their heads in total bewilderment of the curious, unfathomable even bizarre and seemingly irrational behaviors, thoughts and feelings of whatever sex you are not Wouldn t you like to understand or at least be able to decipher the amazing creatures whose bodies are strange and different and who act in incomprehensible ways Well, I do And this book answers the question for me of what men are REALLY like when women aren t around This book is so much fun to read Norah Vincent has the guts and the curiosity and the sensitivity to pull off this amazing disguise You won t believe until she tells you, in great detail, but she is actually able to assemble a disguise that enables her to be totally accepted as a man and I mean to the extent that she is able to infiltrate a men s bowling league, the dating scene, a high pressure job that will sound familiar to those of us who have seen the movie Glengarry Glen Ross , an Iron John type of men s retreat, and a monastary But this isn t just a parlor trick The author is acutely sensitive and compassionate, with an eye for detail and a heart full of wisdom She brings new understanding to us women about how men live and how they deal with their emotional pain It is a sympathetic, humorous, well written and enlightening book, one of the most enjoyable reads I ve had in a long time Go read it right now Full disclosure I ve cross dressed once I passed I didn t change any of my mannerisms or jewelry I wore my regular glasses and my regular jeans People see what they expect to see Wish I could upload the photo so you could see it too.In regard to Norah Vincent s Self Made Man, let s begin by saying girlfriend has issues While she was ostensibly going undercover as a man to research how men read white heterosexual lower middle class men really are, a whole lot of the book is concerned w Full disclosure I ve cross dressed once I passed I didn t change any of my mannerisms or jewelry I wore my regular glasses and my regular jeans People see what they expect to see Wish I could upload the photo so you could see it too.In regard to Norah Vincent s Self Made Man, let s begin by saying girlfriend has issues While she was ostensibly going undercover as a man to research how men read white heterosexual lower middle class men really are, a whole lot of the book is concerned with the Big Reveal telling the people she s duped that she s really a woman and that she intends to write about their misguided attempts to relate to her as a man This is barely justified as a postmortem of how well she passed and how she might do better at it Mostly it just seems mean.For instance, in the chapter on dating, she goes on at some length to paint the straight women whom she met online as damaged, distrustful, manipulative, self deceptive, and needy After she reveals herself as just another predator, several of the women still consent to have sex with her I m confused how the psych makes the world a better place, or why she proceeded to mercy fuck the women who d liked her because she was such a good listener What exactly does that have to do with men Perhaps my favorite part of the book was the chapter called Sex, in which Vincent trolls around the diviest strip clubs she can find She repeatedly buys herself lap dances, then puzzles over what it is men get from them She finds them embarrassing and degrading for both members of the transaction Ummight I suggest that you don t have the equipment to fully appreciate the situation In fact, only one of the dancers actually comments on her limp dick, and Vincent doesn t extrapolate that they probably all have discussed the creepy lurker who can t get off The lack of self awareness in the chapter was breathtaking.The book reads very quickly, which was a bonus In the end, however, I didn t pity Vincent, who drove herself into depression after her year of using people I also didn t feel the pity she did for the men who seemed so worn down by trying to live in the confines of their white heterosexual lower middle class world I felt sorry for the people who trusted her welcomed her into their monastery, their self help circle, their bowling league, their bedrooms It would have been one thing for her to explore their milieux, gone on her way, and written her book People come and go in one s life all the time For her to insist on revealing herself time and time and time again, to rub people s faces in what fools they had been, seemed unnecessary and cruel.Perhaps the most telling part and least explored by Vincent was her desire at the culmination of the men s retreat to be cut by one of the men she d befriended She wanted to be physically hurt, to be punished for her deceptions I couldn t help but wonder if she d set up all of her investigations as a way to get herself bashed, either as a gay man who couldn t behave appropriately in the homophobic situations she enabled or as a transvestite woman breaching communities which have consciously and intentionally withdrawn from women Was her depression at the end of the experiment simply the suffering she felt she deserved and couldn t find at anyone else s hands I don t have any answers This is merely my analysis of a flawed ethnography by an admittedly deceptive and captivatingly myopic narrator.Mostly I m curious how she scored such a media coup when the book was published Norah Vincent, unfortunately, does no such thing And that is the irritating thing about this book When she is specific, talking specifically about what she experienced and the stories she is told by the men she interacted with, it s pretty darn good But then, every time, she extrapolates from that to tell us about how what she experienced is what all men experience Keep it small and personal, and let your readers draw their own conclusions Because many of those grand philosophical statement Norah Vincent, unfortunately, does no such thing And that is the irritating thing about this book When she is specific, talking specifically about what she experienced and the stories she is told by the men she interacted with, it s pretty darn good But then, every time, she extrapolates from that to tell us about how what she experienced is what all men experience Keep it small and personal, and let your readers draw their own conclusions Because many of those grand philosophical statements were based on pretty shaky anecdotes.Note The rest of this review has been withdrawn due to the recent changes in Goodreads policy and enforcement You can read why I came to this decision here.In the meantime, you can read the entire review at Smorgasbook This book infuriated me I would like to give it negative 3 stars Unfortunately that s not possible.Vincent makes broad generalizations about various groups of people based on their gender, race and class I found her perspective to be incredibly elitist and classist her analysis of her experience living as a man is deeply rooted in her unexamined privilege as a middle class, non disabled white woman.My fury kept me from completing this book The final straw came when she disgustedly referre This book infuriated me I would like to give it negative 3 stars Unfortunately that s not possible.Vincent makes broad generalizations about various groups of people based on their gender, race and class I found her perspective to be incredibly elitist and classist her analysis of her experience living as a man is deeply rooted in her unexamined privilege as a middle class, non disabled white woman.My fury kept me from completing this book The final straw came when she disgustedly referred to a potential date with the slur liminally autistic I literally threw the book across the room.Read it if you want to, of course Just know I thought this book was offensive trash